Getting Back Together
Excerpt From Chapter 5 : Making Changes
With Your Ex
When you are working
on getting back together with your ex, both of you have
to keep in mind that it takes two to repair a relationship.
Both of you must agree to do what it takes to make it
happen. If only one of you wants to make progress, the
relationship will be doomed from the start. After both
of you have decided to move forward with getting back
together, you will have to take renewed steps to get it
right this time. Maybe one of you has a habit of a bad
temper. Count to ten before you say anything if there
is something you are not happy about or if something doesn.t
go your way. Making that step to change bad habits is
a plus.
Making a Fresh Start
Basically, you are starting
all over again with your ex so make it a completely fresh
start. You will have to get to know each other again from
the beginning so think about the first time the two of
you met and get reacquainted with each other. Think about
some of the special times that you had with your ex and
see if you can relive some of those times again.
If it was your fault
that the relationship failed previously, seek and ask
for forgiveness for the mistakes you made. Also, forgive
yourself for what happened as this is the only way that
you can move forward without carrying a burden of guilt.
You and your ex need to be willing to change your thinking
about certain things because you cannot take some of the
same attitudes that you had before and use them, as they
may be detrimental to your relationship. Work on rebuilding
your future than staying stuck in your past because you
won't move anywhere if you don't move on.
